I’ve watched girls battle themselves about whether or not to fcuk with the same dude that broke their heart before. Shit, I won’t lie, I was one of those girls too. The question that always pops up in my mind is whether or not it’s that easy to forgive someone who has done permanent damage on your heart. Is it that easy to forget all the wrongs they’ve committed against you? Will you ever be the same again?
One thing I can say about females is that not only are we born nurturer, but we have strong endurance, and we forgive easily. Hey, we might smash your car out, or max out the black card, but it’s our way of forgiveness 😉 We put up with a lot of wrongdoing, whether its by the same-sex or the opposite sex. My mother has always taught me to forgive and let go so that you can be free and blah blah blah. This is the same woman who poured hot water on my father while he was sleeping….pause….yeah. I know. But throughout all my heartbreak, I’ve always taken an introspective look on not only the relationship, but on myself as well. Let’s dive into my thoughts a little deeper shall we?
Now someone please explain to me what forgiveness is when it comes to unhealthy relationships. Is forgiving letting go, leaving him or her in search of somebody new? When I say letting go, I mean COMPLETELY! No contact, no nothing! Or is accepting the person’s faults, and attempting to keep the relationship going called forgiveness? If forgiveness is involved in both of these aspects, how many times can one person forgive????
Sometimes my mind opens and I begin to see forgiveness as a different form of love. If loving someone means to accept them for who they are and all their faults, isn’t forgiveness the same thing? To me, the difference between love and forgiveness is simple. To love is to make your entire world, your everything, about that one person you truly love. To love is being selfish in the simple fact that you want that person all to yourself, but loving is a wholly unselfish act and feeling because you are willing to do anything for that person. Now forgiveness..forgiveness is mostly about you. People tend to think that forgiving someone has to do with them..no hunny. Forgiveness is about how this person and their actions are effecting you. It’s about knowing what you can live with and what you can live without. It’s about letting go for yourself because you know you love yourself enough to do so. Unfortunately, it’s also about accepting someone else’s faults no matter how much it is hurting you.
All in all, falling in love is easy, staying in love is tricky, and forgiveness is the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe I’m right..you let ya girl know!
Be Breezy!
JuiiCee
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